Where do you draw the line?
Personally, I would say I am honest when it counts. But, on the other hand, I steal cookies from Harris Teeter. The sign says take one but sometimes I take two.
I lie too. When someone asks me if I have done something and I didn't because I forgot, I will say I did it and it's coming right up. Or, when my mom asks me if I have called to set up an appointment with the dentist and I didn't yet.
Once, I stole meat without knowing I didn't ring it up at the grocery store and realised it when I was walking out to my car but never went back.
I once put in a logo my art director made in my portfolio because I was still young and didn't have a full enough portfolio. That's pretty much the worst thing I did as a designer and still feel HORRID about it to this day. Obviously I took it out but it was still such a hack thing to do.
I lied to my ex all the time. Not bad things, just shit that would get her to stop talking my ear off when on the phone.
I sometimes change my persona to get what I want. Like when I'm at a junkyard haggling on a price, I will act poor or redneck and say I can get it cheaper at the junker down the road. Or when I need a favor at a gas station, I will act more "blue collar" to get a hook up. Or act more "black" to get a hookup in the mailroom. <--- horribly insensitive sentence I know. Forgive me.
Anyways, you get the point. I will never, EVER without a doubt cheat on a girlfriend. Ever. Ok, maybe kissing but that was only once.
I won't wreck the family car and blame a robber.
I won't murder someone and blame someone else.
I won't steal from my roommates wallet.
When does a white lie turn into a black one for you? Where do you draw the line with honesty?
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Personally, I would say I am honest when it counts. But, on the other hand, I steal cookies from Harris Teeter. The sign says take one but sometimes I take two.
I lie too. When someone asks me if I have done something and I didn't because I forgot, I will say I did it and it's coming right up. Or, when my mom asks me if I have called to set up an appointment with the dentist and I didn't yet.
Once, I stole meat without knowing I didn't ring it up at the grocery store and realised it when I was walking out to my car but never went back.
I once put in a logo my art director made in my portfolio because I was still young and didn't have a full enough portfolio. That's pretty much the worst thing I did as a designer and still feel HORRID about it to this day. Obviously I took it out but it was still such a hack thing to do.
I lied to my ex all the time. Not bad things, just shit that would get her to stop talking my ear off when on the phone.
I sometimes change my persona to get what I want. Like when I'm at a junkyard haggling on a price, I will act poor or redneck and say I can get it cheaper at the junker down the road. Or when I need a favor at a gas station, I will act more "blue collar" to get a hook up. Or act more "black" to get a hookup in the mailroom. <--- horribly insensitive sentence I know. Forgive me.
Anyways, you get the point. I will never, EVER without a doubt cheat on a girlfriend. Ever. Ok, maybe kissing but that was only once.
I won't wreck the family car and blame a robber.
I won't murder someone and blame someone else.
I won't steal from my roommates wallet.
When does a white lie turn into a black one for you? Where do you draw the line with honesty?
Phone lines are now open.
honesty is tricky, but i think the line is drawn on a person to person basis depending on how susceptible one is to feelings of guilt.
white lies, ostensibly, are lies that are told and have no real consequence, negative or positive. that means the lies that get you where you want to go can not be white lies. in other words, lies that turn out okay are still lies.
so then it really boils down to guilt once again. if you feel guilty the lie becomes kind of a big deal. if you don't, it's out the window and it doesn't matter.
so there's circular logic here.
all that said, honesty is not always the best policy. then again, if you aren't being honest with others you aren't being honest with yourself.
this is another problem and even more circular logic.
i guess, to me, honesty is doing what needs to be done with effort to step on or destroy as few toes as possible. so, in my case, honesty is not always honest.
but like you said, there are certain things that you absolutely without a doubt can not fucking lie about. those things are probably determined by how important you think they are, and how dear to you the people involved are.
i mean, i didn't really answer your questions at all. honesty is tricky!
Don't forget your stolen bagels from Le Bon Pain. Boo.
In my opinion, white lies are never white. They're always grey, and inevitably can turn black on you.
Honesty is the best policy, with few exceptions. I've found over the past few years that if I just own it, the consequences are much better than if I fudge it. I've seen proof of that from my boss at work- he appreciates that I can bring my mistake to his attention, and show that I'm already on top of a fix. He now trusts me much more than some others here.
I told my husband for the first time today that I shoplifted beads from a craft store when I was younger. He had always been completely honest with me about his theft of a video game at age 12...I figured I should display the same soul-baring. He is my spouse and whatnot, not to mention my Baby Daddy.
The person you share your bed with should also get full benefit of your heart and soul.